Book Details...
Paperback: 384 pages
Publisher: Free Press; Revised edition (November 9, 2004)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 0743269519
ISBN-13: 978-0743269513
Book Dimensions: 5.4 x 0.9 x 9.4 inches
Book Weight: 8.8 ounces
Celebrity Appraises...
Russia should like Stephen Covey the great thinker, recommends that every Russian citizen should read "seven habits of highly effective people.".
-- the Russian Prime Minister Putin
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-- Li Kaifu
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-- "the pursuit of excellence" author Tom Peters master of world management
Book Description...
"The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" is the most classic, the most famous one training materials in the world, Sence the book was published, Topped the U.S. bestseller list for seven years, Twenty-eight languages in 70 countries around the world to issue more than one hundred million books.
This book is not only the enterprises organizations, Is also personnal life for compulsory textbook of self-improvement. Readers in business, government, army, school, and family etc...
About the author...
Stephen R. Covey is a Harvard University Master of Business Administration, Brigham Young University Master. He is the founder of the Covey Leadership Center, Is also Co-Chair of Franklin.Covey company, Training leadership talent has assisted many enterprises, educational institutions and government offices. Dr. Covey has received the honor of"human potential mentor" in "Time" magazine, And elected one of the twenty five most influential figures in American, Prestigious in the file of leadership theory, family and interpersonal relationships, personal management.
Stephen Covry special meeting with U.S President Barack Obama, A valued consultant of former President Bill Clinton, "The Economist" magazine elected him as "the most forward-looking management thinkers."
----The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
Blogger Review 1...
This book summarizes the seven habits, in fact, more should be said that the seven principles, not just for effective people value, seven. But the life of self-cultivation. A good book, but did not imagine so good. May be because, although the book The seven tenets are really very essence and truth of life, but the actual control and process integration into their beliefs than to method mentioned in the book is much more complicated, despite the importance, book repeatedly discussed these principles in fact, for this
Some experience and recognition, is the need to constantly explore and reflection to life by. Moreover, a boast without shame, in which every creed, I contact and thought about, past feelings summarize has almost involved seven habits of each point. And, so, this book is not able to give me new inspiration and special feelings.
Life, to understand the outside world and continue to progress, is based on their own ideas, life is wearing a subjective lens, but as time went on, more and more deep degree; and the true success, not do things by irregular ways, but based on the inner strength of success. Therefore, in order to grow and find the true success, requires constant self, reduce the degree of glasses, seeking common points between the world, social and self value. The book mentioned seven habits, speak to me, establish the goal, grasp the key, beneficial, place oneself in others' position, benefit by mutual discussion, balanced development, is a from dependence to independence to interdependence, also from the personal success to successful relationships. In fact, in my opinion, this is a from the thought to the skills, one-sided pursuit of the former will become a monk or a philosopher, one-sided pursuit of the latter would be hypocritical performance, without thinking skills, will only be forced his performance, not the inner strength. Although, this book did not give me any shock, but also confirms some of their own ideas, and also give some extra harvest, but not make my mind more system, because, although the book drew a map, but, I think, in essence, these seven habits is only seven a habit, can not become a system.
Sporadic record harvest, as follows:
1, the knowledge is a "from inside to open gate of change", unless you open your heart, to abandon the old concept, otherwise no one can open the door for you;
2, excellence is not an act, but a habit. -- Aristotle
3, there are three kinds of value: empirical value; value creation; the attitude value.
4, love is a verb, not feeling. (don't say love, say your subjective to love).
5, prevarication words and actions will strengthen the fatalistic acceptance, the speaker will yourself brainwashed.
6, work hard, to "concern" thing, can gradually expand the "sphere of influence", the influence range of more concern, the feeling will gradually reduce the incapable of action.
7, life is facing three problems: can directly control problem, change their behavior to eliminate problems; indirect control problems, exert influence to eliminate the problem; the problem of incapable of action, accept problem.
8, speak to me not out or ignore others reaction, but more sensitive, reason, not by appearances and analysis of actual effect, grasp the crux of the problem.
9, not afraid of the wrong is not afraid.
10, through the process of setting goals, clear thinking, condensed continued strength.
11, the principle as a center of life guide action, action will be sent to deepen understanding of the principles and the strength to carry on.
12, exercise, simulation under various conditions of reaction in the brain, can contribute to the formation of the actual work habits.
13, write the family mission statements, get the whole family involved, both process and result, strengthen the family communication, common to a target.
14, fully trusted authorization, teach subordinates to improve capacity, at first than to complete their work more time-consuming, but definitely worth.
15, authorized person must come from management purposes, not to effect; principle cannot change permissions can be authorized, but it differs from man to man. A fully trusted authorization to be consensus on these things: the expected results, should abide by the norms, availableResources, the attribution of responsibility, clear rewards and punishments.
16, time management: target selection, scheduling, daily adjustment.
17, good interpersonal relationship is self-made and know one's limitations, know oneself discreet. To maintain the friendship between people, the most important is not in speech or behavior, but in nature.
18, can increase feelings of account, courtesy, honesty, kindness and credit. This is trust.
19, six kinds of method to increase feelings of deposit: understand others, attention to details, commitment, honesty (clarify expectations), integrity, courage to apologize (not diligent.).
20, problems may increase feelings of deposit opportunity.
21, express themselves not blow one's own horn, but to tell their own opinions on the understanding of others, sometimes even have a change of heart. Because in the process of getting to know someone, you also produced new insights.
22, three levels of communication: self-defense, respect each other, benefit by mutual discussion.
23, self-discipline and others, including the mind body spirit, work of the four aspects, for both the individual and team.
----The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
Blogger Review 2...
These are mostly from the psychology thought had been hundreds of millions of people are learning that challenges.
This morning from Steve Pavlina twitter that he wrote "seven habits of inefficient people" (7 Habits of Highly Ineffective People), and "the seven habits of highly effective people" comparison is really interesting.)
Be reactive. Set no goals. Do whatever comes up. Think win-lose. Judge people. Compete. Burn out.
Bad Habit 1 - Be Reactive passive
Passive people in response to outside to forget this point: there is a great little space between the external environmental stimuli and our behavior, we fill in this space content made all the difference. This is Ellis of rational emotive therapy in the famous ABC theory (Activating events - Beliefs - emotional and behavioral Consequences). Coldplay "Viva La Vida" album has a song "lost", of which two lyrics to understand there is a choice between stimulus and response:
Just because I'm losing, doesn't mean I'm lost
Just because I'm losing, doesn't mean I have lost self (does not mean I have failed.).
Just because I'm hurting, doesn't mean I'm hurt
Just because I was hurt, does not mean I have scars
For example: people want to irritate you, you can choose from a high point of view objectively overlooking someone, think he wants to do to achieve what purpose, different reaction your will to you and him as well as topics or events produce what effect etc.. Perhaps you don't want to completely control by the person, so "what others want you mad you angry" is not inevitable. Don't forget, between stimulus and response space enough for us to make their own judgement and choice!
Of course the reality of life in many cases we will think a lot of the absence of choice is a circumstance (important choice may be less); in fact, more accurate points are in many cases may be no better choice, only one of the possible options (other good options can be an easy job to exclude). This seemingly simple, but very possible because no choice and cause a lot of emotion and attitude change and anxiety. This time the "just do it!" It is not just a slogan, may also be a wise choice.
Bad Habit 2 - Set no goals no target
It is easy to understand, but it is hard to explain.
Because "no target" situation we are easy to meet, "target" is not hard to do, really hard to do some of the following: when the judge when goal should not have goals, how to set and distinguish the target small target small target, how much energy to pursue respectively to these targets, the need to adhere to a long time to achieve the goal, whether to need nearly stubborn adherence to etc.. These judgments we need rich experience.
Many people said the goal not to act in vain, but most do not have the goal to action. So there is no way that we can have an object to act and stick to it? I think that the above approach, think about your goals, the above have more choice to determine the problem are done, in the heart (preferably in writing) to complete a detailed target analysis report, really accept your goal in mind. When you have your goals have invested so much time thinking about energy to study and confirm, you don't want to give up easily. The cost of giving up big.
If you just say: "I want to how how!" It almost certainly will not reach the goal. Your heart will not recognize the target.
If the rise to the height of philosophy of life, like Schopenhauer or Nietzsche think like the end of life has no meaning there is no goal; may realize in inextricably bogged down in. If the said "life is meaningless," mean anything to you?
Personally feel that the better way is not confined to the end of life must have goals, but trying to "find a suitable target", have a look whether has the help to you. I have been accustomed to living with the target, it will make me more happy; although from time to time will still go to the ultimate questions.
Bad Habit 3 - Do whatever comes up do no matter what happened (to what)
To distinguish the order of priority to do things before, but for most people take a detour to recognize what is important, what is important. The order of priority in judge things, thinking is an important way of thinking, but the time is a have to consider the opportunity cost (likely to think it over and over again opportunity missed). So long time exercise it melts in their blood worthy of their trust instinct sometimes is more important. (see Kobe recommended Malcolm Gladwell "battle 2 seconds (blink)" one book)
If we can distinguish four types of things (important and urgent, important but not urgent, important but not urgent, not important and not urgent), how different things to be arranged time management is still a headache.
For those who don't want to do but emotional reason should be done (which is often do not want to face but must always face the problem), my way is: individual set himself a long or short Supertime, in the "super time" to ensure they are not affected by any other factors do these things; the end of the Supertime if not done, set some time after the next Supertime, so cross repeatedly until the work is done, but don't force yourself to finish.
If not complete, often make their own spend oneself, may have many after all face is always a problem to solve, can finish has been great, why wait for one can finish? Between two Supertime, give yourself a reward.
Bad Habit 4 - Think win-lose winning thinking
You thought that the world is a "zero-sum game", do you have I have no, you win, I lose, you and I have less. The fact is that? The development of the society by groups and individuals greatly small creation, rather than fight or plunder. With the outside world to fight against, not I win you lose I considered to be the loss outweighs the gain. Things (not one). Because we build our strong armor in the us with the outside against only, while at the same time, lost opportunities for personal growth.
In fact, we only need to "combat" is our own.
The view of sociology, man is a social animal, having spent a lifetime to battle their genetic inheritance. (see "the social animal", "the source", just so many struggle) almost didn't win, or occasionally win to also do not know how to win.
Bad Habit 5 - Judge people judge others
And everyone in between conflict and cooperation, to be the first to understand others to seek to understand; but to find an excuse for their own behavior, but to judge the merits and demerits. If we tried and understanding of others is a very difficult thing, you wouldn't expect to be understood. And his looking to build on other people, not always reliable choice.
For most people, the "Fuk Road, he also" is not desirable and can't do, but Confucius "do not do to others," although easy to understand but also very difficult to do, so I had to "fall" to judge others to find little sense of superiority.
The Bible says: "Do not judge, and you will not be judged; do not condemn, and you will not be condemned; give, and you will be given; forgive, and you will be forgiven." is a meaning.
In fact, I personally feel that bad habits of six should be (and used six Synergize synergy contrast):
Bad Habit 6 - Separate segmentation
Would you "can't see the forest for the trees", only the experience of the people and things as separate individuals, not the life of a point are connected in series to form a belong to your own unique meanders graceful curves (the road is tortuous, the line is not possible).
Indeed, it is hard to say that all experience in life we are "useful", "more to say when these experiences these learning to experience". However, if we can take the life as an indivisible whole, someday will find they happened in should moment, this should be a wonderful experience, a live in the present moment experience.
Steve Jobs has for a long time in preschool art school (English "calligraphy"). He is write a program to sell the computer, do not know what is the use of such. But in many years later, in the design of the first MAC, those beautiful font beautiful interface as he hit to turn over battle winning magic weapon. If do not have this experience, he is the right side of the brain is not exercise, there is no design concept was constantly updated, there won't be iPod MacBook iPhone.
In his famous Standford commencement speech also talked about "connecting the dots (will the dots)".
Bad Habit 7 - Burn out (a) burn / be dead beat
Personal growth is a lifetime thing, is a marathon rather than a sprint, time a long, don't run out of fuel. If we take the 100m Sprint Speed to run a marathon, the results on the early burn themselves out, fuel depletion after cease.
The right choice should be constantly challenge themselves, to update the self. Don't care about the city to gain and loss, always with a beginner's mind to take seriously every day, make every moment in your mind is all brand new. Neither look forward to happy, failure is not discouraged. Because of difficulties in life is not to let us down, but to help us grow.
Nitzsch said: "what doesn't kill me, makes me stronger".
We will not deny this sentence best interpretation were five Xiaoqiang Seiya headed, forever in the Sharpen the saw, always in practice playing super fight, always in the face of the enemy (difficult) to preserve the strength to carefully study the break until see enemy (difficult), even if their to be at one's last gasp. Time, the gradual accumulation of small universe has deep in our hearts together, waiting for Athena summon.
Our Athena is their heart. Any time you received from your inner call of duty, are to be the same "burn small universe like Seiya roaches received the call of athena"!!
----The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
Blogger Review 3...
These two days in addition to Research, also attended the Hong Kong Baptist University "the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" (the seven habits of highly effective people) training (all in English, a total of three days, 4 hours a day). Making notes, talk about bit of idea, brief, important. Interesting sentence is worth a taste. Every time I see to self-examination, effect to. Specific can do, that's all.
To tell the truth, these 7 habits listed it's really no big deal:
1 Be Proactive
2 Begin with the end in mind
3 Put the first things first
4 Think win-win
5 Seek first to understand, then to be understood
6 Synergize
7 Sharpen the saw
You see the special feeling? No, I didn't. However, I see and I remember, I do and I understand. Knowing and understanding are two different things, is completely different.
The first day, is familiar with these 7 habits, and will be back, clearly the relationship between each other.
This relationship is very important. This a few words to pay attention to the following:
Dependence -- Independence -- Interdependence
Dependence to independence to interdependence. At the beginning we rely on each other, so the most obvious is the words to "you". Simply million prior to look for external, blame is from the external to. Later, we received a good education, know that this is wrong, then advocated the "independence", advocating personal success, so in 1, 2, 3 custom, we know that should be positive, active, do have a beginning and an end, the order of priority to grasp things (that is, English Not important, Important, Not Urgent, Urgent). In general, do the above (3 habits that very simple, in fact, can be extended to tell specific characteristics), personal success is small, this is "the ego". (note, by deception corruption successfully simply can not be called a "person", it is to understand the concept of error. Trust and trustworthiness is always, I also talked about)
A lot of people to this degree is very satisfied. In fact, in a very long period of time, we do think this is a very good ah. Now, not. Because this is the figure of Private Victory, just from the individual dependent to independent individual. What is the idea of the continuous progress of the world now most advocate? Win-win. The value of life, personal success can only be a part of, if not from "me" to "I", so what about win-win? What about Public Victory? So we should continue to make 4, 5, 6, used to do, is to achieve win-win thinking habit, learn to listen, understand, and then seek to be understood, team spirit, so that the surrounding people and businesses will also benefit, to achieve a win-win situation, to achieve Public Victory (where Trust is the a life that: time event). Finally in the 7 habits continue to temper, including mental, physical, social and so on. The success of the scope and the effect will be more and more big, changes in family, change, change of state, finally can really change the world.
(the word Team can in fact be apart so understanding: Together Each of us to Achieve More, in fact, the team is to realize the 1+1>2 value)
1 habits: Be Proactive.
The weather is not good, so the mood is not good. So almost all of the people. So when will you carry your own weather?
The boss, so the mood is not good. He let you in a bad mood, or you choose a bad mood? (think of)
Others scold me, I feel no face. He let you feel no face, or do you feel no face?
Remember:
No one can take our self esteem without our permission.
To distinguish between reactive and proactive. The former is a passive response, the latter is the active response. The boss scolded you, you choose the mood is not good, choose the blame back, choice of complaining to colleagues, this is reactive; and you choose to calm, tell what is wrong, and then put aside all the minor details, focus on how to solve the problem, this is proactive. Learn to put circle of concern into circle of influence, first consider the latter.
But others say you are not good, or not the result you expect, people do not always happy, so how to adjust? There are 5 rules can make us happy:
1 Free your heart from hate
2 Free your mind from worry
3 Live Simply
4 Give More
5 Expect Less
The teacher didn't mention, but I think of the famous Murphy rule: "if something can not only towards the good aspects of development, but also to develop bad words, it probably will toward bad direction." The more you expect, generally gets less. You Give more and Expect less, but will be more generally get.
Some people would say, that I pay so much, or get less, even one after another and bad. This is not very angry! Indeed, but you will not thought of beforehand? The world who can copiously quote authoritative works, at any time to adjust to changing circumstances of the expert, in fact is not as we imagined, but efforts to pay, but also for all possible are ready, so no matter what the result, he can calmly, speak with fervour and assurance, talk cheerfully and humorously. But, when we wonder, they again for the next action ready. You say, how can such a person is not successful?
In addition, absolutely do not believe the words can be recovered, temper can recover, to make things again. You can't do it, the so-called back just wishful thinking.
Think of a joke: Lai Bao wrote diary, one day received his message: "we break up." When she is sad, also received a message: "sorry, wrong." So incapable of further increase of pain.
So in decide and done before, do the two actions: pause, think.
Discussion on the success of the first 150 years of human history, focusing on the training of character, such as honesty, punctuality, nice, neat...... After 150 years of focus on personality. What is called personality, personality is not imitation, but can learn; is the one and only, confident, built on character. Without a healthy personality, the pursuit of individuality is not qualified. Even if pursue, I believe is specious, not for a long time.
My mom said Oh, so much, very difficult to achieve!
Of course, easy to do, but also it is easy to succeed. We all know the old saying: be not easily won success. So we should know: the character of the discipline and to create not.
However, not easily is not easy, we can from the fun begins to try to change:
Use "Twinkle Twinkle Little Star" melody to sing "London Bridge is fall down" lyrics
Finally, gives the five things we can not change:
1 Everything changes and ends
2 Things do not always work according to plan.
3 Life is not always fair
4 Pain is part of life.
5 People are not loyal and loving all the time.
